I over heard the following conversation at work between a mother and her daughter (age about 2 or 3)
Mother "ok I just have to get cigarettes and then we will know about much money I have for groceries".
I do not think I need to say anything really. I was just gobsmacked to say the least.
I work in a small supermarket, where I have the pleasure of serving the public. I can spot a smoker a mile away, they have that look about them especially around the face. The colouring is just a bit different, ranging from really grey and wrinkly in the elderly, to just plain yukky in the middle aged (my age you know between 50 and 65).
I have no feelings one way or the other about the fact they are buying smokes I just feel indifferent. It is honestly like I never smoked, I feel nothing. I do not feel sorry for them and I most certainly to do not envy them.
My own personal opinion is that you either want to smoke or you don't. For me I did not want to so I didn't. I know that it sounds easy and I am under no illusions that a lot of people find it very hard to quit. All I can say is that one day I had an epiphany and that was that.
Do not give up on quitting I say quitting because as those on here that know me know that as far as I am concerned we quit smoking we do not give up smoking. "Giving up smoking" to me makes me think that we are giving up something that we enjoy and is good for us.Which is not the case.
Not smoking is not going to make your life harder, in fact the exact opposite is true. Every time you succeed at even the smallest task where you would normally have a smoke becomes an amazing accomplishment for you. Every time some says to you "oh just have a smoke you will feel better" tell your self that they are talking bull %$#* also if they are a smoker you can be certain they are wishing they where as strong as you, and also able to cope with life's little ups and downs without having to resort to having a fag.
Last thought for the night.
I remember back when I was young say between the ages of 5 to 13, and how stressful my life was back then. Friendship breakups, boys who did not like me, school exams, fighting with my siblings, and parents. Really that was a lot of worry and stress for a little kid to cope with. Guess what, I got through it, without SMOKING. So it is a load of crap to say that smoking helps deal with stress, it creates stress.
Trust yourself and believe that you will succeed.
I have a passion. Since I no longer smoke, I decided that I needed to have a new passion in my life.
I started playing golf which I love and getting quite good at even if I do say so myself. I play with a great group of ladies.
So back to the title of this blog. We rent where we live and on the property is an avary. I had thought of turning it into a hot house. Until one day I was sitting outside and thought I should put birds in the avary.
That was the beginning of my new passion. I have in the last month gone from no birds to having a pair of love birds and a rescued Ringneck. There are 2 quail running around the bottom of the aviary.
I am now woken up in the morning to the sound of happy birds.
So my blog today is about finding a passion of your own to replace the want or need to smoke. It has worked for me. Maybe it will work for you.
General update on what is happening in my neck of the woods. Hubby has been told surgery is tomorrow so that is great news. I am on holiday and enjoying my golf and spending time doing just what I want to do.
I have to say smoking is still a passing thought now and again. But at the end of the day life is just so much easier to deal with when I am not running around like a demented witch looking for a fag.
So the 2 "P's for today are PASSION and PASSIONATE. Love those words. Find a passion even a really small one and embrace it.
Paying It Foward.
I am sure that you have all heard of "Paying it forward", I like to call it Karma. This week I had a friend who had no more firewood left. We had plenty so I gave her some. That small act came back to me two fold.
1. I went to housie that night with my usual $60.00 and came home with $210.00
2. My husband was told that after a 18month wait for surgery he was now on the waiting list and should have his surgery in the next month. Oh the joy that news gave me. No more migraines, no more back pain and at time so much tension in the house.
So my little blog today is about life and the small joys that come our way.
When you quit smoking (and I know that you all will succeed as I have done). There will be an amazing sense of achievement, and with that will come a new confidence.
You will have beaten a vile addiction. There is a saying "Mind over Matter". That is so true with quitting.
This is my chance to pay it back. To tell you all that you will succeed, you will have your day in the sun when you suddenly realise that you have quit.
Stay strong and remember when you have a craving make sure that that is what it is and not just some day to day crap that is pushing your buttons.
If it is a craving then do what I did. Accept it for what it is and move on, do not give it a chance to become bigger that what is needs to be.
You will have your day in the sun.
You will have your day when you have so much confidence that you will be able to achieve anything that you want.
Stay strong, believe in yourself and have faith in those that love you and want to be there for you. Your family and friends are your greatness allies.
When I had decided to quit smoking I was totally unaware of how much I would learn about myself.
Smoking not only covers you in a thick fog of smoke it also fogs up your thinking processes. So I got to the stage where I really had no idea just what it was that I wanted to do. Being indecisive was me just procrastinating. I knew that I had to quit and once I had made the choice that I would have to stick with it.
So I can now handle the stress at work without running outside to have a quick smoke.
I can honestly tell you that life is soo much easier. Day to day life is a breeze. The best thing is that if I am going out I do not have to think in advance about when and where I can smoke. Believe me you really do enjoy going out a lot more. No more clock watching and wondering just how long do I really have to stay, because I really need to go and have a smoke.
Believe in yourself and know that you can do it. Trust in yourself you will be surprised at how strong you can be.
I just have to say again that everyday life is just so much simpler. Yes the stress is still there and I still get itchy scratchy with my family, little things still get me going, but when it comes down to it SMOKING does not make it better in fact it will only make it worse, and that hole you are in will just keep getting deeper.
Yes I do think about smoking now and again but that is all it is just a thought. So bite the bullet and just go for it. When you succeed because I know you will, life will be fantastic.
How I got to this point.
Last November I lost my sister-in-law to pancreatic cancer. She had been diagnosed only 6 months prior to her passing away. Pat was only 61 and had just become a grandmother for the first time. While her death had a profound effect on me, I did not once consider quitting smoking or even consider my own mortality.
Life pretty much returned to normal pretty quickly after the funeral. We all got on with our lives. When I think back now there where times when I found myself thinking about smoking and why I was continuing to do something that really at the end of the day would either kill me or even worse leave me completely incapacitated. So I ignored the cough and the odd thoughts that would creep into my head.
Did I have a lightening bolt moment, when I decided to quit, no I didn't.
I just got up one morning had my last smoke put a patch on made a cup of coffee and started my day.
As I said in my previous blog as far as I am concerned I have given up nothing. What I have done is quit a habit that in the end would kill me.
Yes I had moments when I thought that I craved a cigarette. The reason I say thought is because when I look back now most of those moments where when every day moments got the better of me. It was not the fags causing me to be stressed or upset it was either people annoying me or just everyday crap that everyone has to deal with.
I don't miss cigarettes and I certainly do not miss going out in the cold to have one. Yes I have put weight on, and I am sure that will fix itself in the months to come.
So for me the main thing is to just live life, I don't count the days because if I did it would be a constant reminder to me that I no longer smoke. And I do not need to be reminded of something that is no longer a part of my life. I hope that makes sense to you all.
My life at the moment is kind of stressful, my husband is waiting for back surgery which will not be happening anytime soon. The poor man is in constant pain he is still working and some days are really good. We both can be quite titchy with each other at times and when this happens I just look him in the eye and say "WELL AT LEAST I NO LONGER SMOKE".
That is when he tells me how proud he is of me.
So It really is worth it and if you can see smoking for what is really is it can be easier than you think.
One last thing. If you find yourself thinking of having a smoke take a moment to really think about what is going on in your mind. Chances are there is something else going on that needs to your attention. If not then just carry on with your day.
Have a fabulous day everyone.
Lessons I have learn't
Hi there Julz, Hero, Rainbow and everyone else out there.
It has been awhile since I have been on here. I would like to say that it is 4 months since I had my last smoke.
There are many reasons why this time I have been so successful.
1.I have quit smoking. I have not given up smoking. For me the term "Giving Up" implies that I will be missing something that I really enjoy.
That is definitely not the case with smoking.
2. Money. There is no way that I could afford to continue to smoke, unless I wanted to go and see a Loan Shark each week to pay for my habit.
3. I had one month supply of patches, I used these then thought to hell with it and carried on without any patches.
What really worked for me was that once I had decided to quit I just did it.
And I carried on with my life like nothing had really changed accept for the fact that I no longer stunk of smoke. There where days when I felt the odd craving but that was all.
I made no major changes, still drank coffee, still went out with my girlfriends( who all smoke) had my wine and had a great time.
I have put some weight on thanks to my love of all things chocolate.
I am not at all worried about that. Just more of me to cuddle. And when you cuddle me I smell so damn good.
To be honest I also think that one of the things that did help me was that I did not count each day that I was smokefree. As I said before I just carried on with my life as normal without any changes. I have been here now and again and it has been great reading how well everyone is doing.
So for me is life is great my golf has improved. I do not have any extra money that just disappears into the weekly expenses, which is fine, that is how it should be. Am I proud of myself? Yes I am, Will I smoke again? NO.
There is more to my story which I will share with you over the next week or so.
If you want to quit then jump and never look down because the only is up.
Sending Love and Hugs to that special trio, you know who you are.
This will be my Year.
Thankyou all for your love and support. 2013 will be my year not just for finally giving the smokes away but for many other reasons as well. I will share these reasons with you all as the weeks go by.
I had a quite night last night with my wonderful husband and #1 son. I still have some smokes left so I intend to smoke these today. I have a supply of patches left over from my previous attempts, which I will start with later on today when the smokes are all gone.
Can someone please tell me how to update my stats. I need to start a new quit date and the programme does not seem to want me to do that. I need to order some more patches and that is not possible until I put in a new quit date.
May this new year bring you all Love,and happiness. xo
Thankyou so much Hero,Rainbow and Julz, I still pop in here and read the blogs. I am so proud of you all and I will see you all here on the 1st January. I have had a very tough past few months and it has been a real struggle. To say that I feel ashamed would be an understatement. I have been scared. I know that there is nothing to be afraid of and that it is only a matter of taking that step into a new and healthy life.
So I will see you all on the 1st.
Man I am glad that hard part is over.
Love to you all and thankyou from the bottom of my heart. xo
I am still hacking away with this chest cold, as much as it is a pain in the backside on the plus side there is just no way that I could possibly smoke even if I wanted to.
We are shifting house in the 2 weeks so as soon as my ankle is up to it I will start packing. I also see it as a time to be ruthless and in my opinion if it has not been used in the last 6 months then out it goes. (Does not include husbands).
At the moment I am looking outside and it is cold and wet here in Ch-Ch. I have the fire going and a good supply of yummy food.
Have a great day.